staying in touch

i am really bad at this! and so have decided to write about it as this might help me inculcate some of what i am about to preach! :)


recently there was a big indian festival - holi (the festival of colours). as is customary, i was supposed to call people (relatives primarily) and wish them - at least that is what was suggested by my mom. and as is very usual in my case, i did not do that. and so when i next spoke to mummy, she blasted me left, right and centre. and again as is usual, and given the physical distance between the two of us, i acknowledged my mistake and said that i would call now, but to say the obvious - i did not again!


then, just yesterday, i spoke to my bua (aunt) and was generally chatting up with her. actually after my cousin (juhie didi) has gotten married, bua seems to have really become the bridge between my generation and the elders in the family. guess she can see both sides better now. anyway, so while talking to her we got on to talk about 'staying in touch'.

i d like to believe that she did not preplan this discussion with me, but nevertheless it did turn out to be good value addition for me. apart from telling me the obvious (obvious - but we still tend to miss it) that one should keep in touch, she was talking in examples. and she made sense.
her line of thought was that it is obviously important and a good practice to keep in touch with relatives (especially elders) for sentimental reasons, but doing so also helps in ingraining this as a practice in our daily lives. from her experience she said that those who drop a hi/hello here and there are always better off in maintaining and extending a strong social web that is always handy in times of need. as i mentioned before - bua has become the 'bridge' after juhie did's wedding -, she quoted anuraag jiju's (juhie didi's husband!) example and how he is so damn good at maintaining ties.


and so all this was just for my selfish reasons really. u see i want to get this to be my habit - 'staying in touch', and so i decided to bore you with writing about it!
and now that you have already read this far, maybe for your own selfish reasons you could try and make this your habit too - after all its not poison, its just some minutes of your time and maybe a few bucks!

and i should not forget to mention - though bua was able to get the point across to me better, i think mummy was the first to point it out to me....that apart, its not bua or mummy that are important here, its the damn point!